I had read about "senior bullying" in the newspaper one day. Now I have seen it up close and personal at Hardee's from this one senior that retired from TRW. There is a group of the retirees that meet there for breakfast. Bill B. is loud, obnoxious and rude. He knows everything about everything. ALWAYS sticks his nose in other people's business and has harassed me since I moved up here. He has ran off four guys from Hardee's that will not come back to be harassed. I mean, he says the meanest things. He needs to keep his nose out of our family business. My dad has Alzheimers and if he isn't making fun of my dad, he is telling him things he has no business. And my dad not really thinking straight, this is not a good situation. Bill thinks its funny, we find it out of line. We are my dad's caretakers and we do not need some senior bully making our life any harder. What do you do? I have another elderly friend that says he is going to take this guy out with one punch, and he could do it. But why do they only think violence. But in all reality, I thought about punching him out myself. But he is a BIG guy. But what do they say, the bigger they are the harder they fall. I do not understand why the manager does not go over there and ask him to either quiet down or leave. I'm sure they can hear.
I tell the other guys just cause you are 80 years plus that does not give you the right to be mean to people. The guys say that the reason he is mean to me is that when I go in all the guys stop listening to him and talk to me. Still no excuse.
This senior bullying is as bad as bullying in the schools. When your elderly you do not need someone saying mean things and arguing with you all the time. I always go to Hardee's to make the guys laugh. Bill B. goes to call them liars and put them down. All my dad says is, "he's an ass".
I use people like this as my "check" or better yet an example of what I want to make sure I am not. I am sure everyone has a day here or there, but with a bully it is everyday and constant. One of his high school classmates said he was the same in school. How sad to think he has been a bully his whole life.
I started this post about 2 months ago, and didn't know where to go with it. Since then Bill has stopped coming to Hardees after 20 plus years and the guys are so happy. There is not one person there that isn't happy he stopped coming. I think that is sad that someone is so disliked by his fellow workers. I find it sad that he didn't know how to act in a social setting. Is he a lonely man? Did he have a hard life and that is why he this way? Did he get picked on in school? Is it now that he is a big guy and allot older that he feels the need to give back what he got his whole life? It is so hard to tell, but I will always think if I say something mean - or tell people they are lying, or put my nose in others business - AM I ACTING LIKE BILL? If the answer is yes, I hope to immediately apologize and never do it again. If you see me being a bully - please call me on it immediately!!!!!
Our family picture after my mother's funeral.
